Archive for June, 2008

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dirty laundry

June 10, 2008

it all started with the laundry.  but before i knew it i was leaving for work, my ring and a note on his desk, while he was still in the shower.  “if we can’t even figure out laundry, how are we supposed to figure out this” with an arrow pointing to my ring. 

we’d also fought the evening before.  feeling frustrated, backed into the proverbial corner, i did the one thing i do best.  i acted like a complete and total child.

i hope he can forgive me.

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the whatnots

June 5, 2008

i’m sitting outside.  it’s hot.  and i’m being eaten alive by mosquitoes.  the steamy lap top isn’t helping.  note to self: google “DIY mosquito repellent” ASAP.

not much new on the akaWedding front.  well, maybe i spoke too soon: 

 – we ordered tulle, yes, tulle, for some lighting stuff we want to do in the venue.  exciting. 

 – i have tentative plans to go to michael’s this weekend to pick up some things for potential centerpieces.  for those that care – square glass vases, river rocks, square glass votive holders, etc.  i also want to check out paper bags for luminaria and/or DIY seed packet favors. 

 – a few of my girlfriends are throwing mr. D and i a wedding shower in august.  i’m really excited about it!  we’re asking guests to help us “stock-the-bar” for the akaWedding by bringing their favorite champagne or vodka (for a signature champagne cocktail.  recipe TBD).  my only fear is that this party will be as cool if not cooler than the actual akaWedding.  it’s at a local mid-to-upper-swanky bar, there will be music, food, etc.

 – we are currently having a huge debate (hyperbole) with the wedding planner about the DJ.  her contact came in way over budget, especially considering we’ll be supplying most if not all of the music via iPod/.MP3 (we’re/i’m picky).  and we could just do the iPod playlist thing with a friend setting up a real PA system for amplification, but we’re worried about transitions and flow.  i mean, what happens if eating takes longer than expected and biggie, ludicris or outkast start bumpin’ as my grammie is finishing her rosemary chicken skewer?  that shit is reserved for when she’s had her limit of champagne cocktail and can’t decipher the lyrics and booty dancing!  from the  begining, our vision was to have more of an emcee who can blend the generally appointed playlists at the generally appointed times.  basically, we need someone to clue our guests into what’s going on – “let’s eat!” or “and now, ladies and fuckwads, we will cut the cake” kinda thing – while playing the appropriate music.  we’re (or mr. D, i should say) now looking to people we know locally who have DJ set-ups and who are rightfully DJs, though more club DJs, to see if anyone will help by showing up, setting up and minding the flow, possibly doing some emcee stuff.  mr. D can’t understand why the wedding planner can’t take on the emceeing responsibility herself.  i understand why this would be a burden for her considering all of the other shit she’s going to be doing that day but i’m not sure whether i want to ask a friend/akaWedding attendee to do it.  maybe, if we can find someone to deal with the musical flow,  mr. D and i will have to take on the emceeing ourselves.  thoughts or advice are always appreciated.

 – the invites are ordered and although they are very simple, i cannot WAIT to see them.  i think this will put everything into perspective; it will be officially official!

 – and because i know he’ll read this eventually, i will say only that i ordered a wedding gift for mr. D today.  it rocks!

 – and as the weeks pass i am more and more stumped by the whole “no ceremony” thing.  trying to come up with alternative ideas has been difficult and with 122 days left until the Big Day i’m getting a bit nervous.  i know the other stuff – the food, drinks, decorations, favors, DJ or not, etc. – will come together but the task of creating an entire akaCeremony from the ground up is hitting me as this HUGE challenge.  with no officiant to rely on it will be just the two of us…doing what exactly?  cuttin’ the fool, as my lovely friend d would say.  and if i’m totally overwhelmed by it now, imagine how i’ll be on the day!  “hot mess” comes to mind.  i know mr. D and i have no problem telling each other how we feel about love and commitment.  in those wee hours of the morning when a 9 minute snooze seems like hours or milliseconds and it’s just us.  and with no one guiding us, forcing us even, to answer the question “do you?” in front of a room full of people, will we be able to convey just exactly what we will “do”…love, honor, cherish, teach, guide, snuggle, breathe for, encourage, conspire with, and on and on.

oof.