gone fishin’

October 2, 2008

yeah, so i’m pretty much outta here.  not for good, mind you.  just life and politics and oh, yeah, that whole getting married thing.  my world is shutting down on friday at noon to pledge my life to the man that i love, spend time with my friends and family and get the hell out of amerika for a few weeks.

catch ya on the flip side, blogosphere!


oh why

August 22, 2008

“why, oh why, are boys so jealous”, was the last text message i sent.

this came after an incident wherein (it appeared to me that) mr.D got huffy over my casual nod to a bartender, “sure i’ll have a shot…if he can have one too”.

mr. D happened to walk up during the ellipsis.  by the look on his face he was not happy with my casual way with the bartender.

and this is where the trouble started.

i saw the anger.  and i heard him say, “you’re taking a shot with him?”  he was referring to the aforementioned bartender.

and, i mean, come on.  no!  he offered me a shot and i clearly saw you coming and clearly invited you into the shotmadness and still you want to get all huffy?!

yeah.  he got huffy.  and i got huffy back.

and are we in high school because i could swear this is just like high school.

now i just want to go cuddle him.  because he’s angry.  but he won’t admit to it.

but he’ll get cuddled anyway.



July 31, 2008

i’ve never had any article of clothing professionally altered.  like, ever.  so on the advice of a friend with experience in such matters, i visited aiko’s alterations late yesterday afternoon. 

aiko greeted me with a loud “heh-row!” as i entered the door to her crowded shop.  short, round and very japanese, aiko has the spunk of a teenager mixed with a heady dose of business woman savvy.  she pointed me toward the dressing room and i put on “the dress”.

“where you wearin’ dis dwess”, aiko asked. 

“oh, this is my wedding dress”, i responded.

aiko: ohhhhh!  my, my.  how plitty.  plitty, plitty dwess. we take it in dis spot and pin dis pwace.

me: wow. i didn’t even notice that little pucker along the bodice.

aiko:  know what you need?  you need veil.  i show you one!

me:  um, well, i’m not really wearing a veil.  the wedding is very non-traditional.

aiko:  oh, no.  veil make dwess more wedding.  make you more bride. 

me:  uh, i can try it on but i really think it will make me look too –

aiko:  here!

at which point aiko shoves a few feet of stiff tulle attached to a cheap plastic hair comb into my scalp.

and she was right.  it was magical.  it was the first time in my life that i actually felt like a bride.  i’ve heard this from other women – that the veil adds a feyly quality to the wedding day attire – but i’m not the type of bride that wears a veil, right?  right??


let the guest list wars begin!

July 26, 2008

just when we thought the guest list was down to a manageable number…it has ballooned…again.

mr. d and i are both at fault.  it’s a strange dance, this guest list thing.  you put someone on the list who you haven’t talked to in years but neglect to invite someone else who you see every day.  you move things around – take someone off, put someone on.  but the someone you put on has a significant other so that ups the list by one.  and then you get a call from your aunt fifi who says she and uncle bubba can’t come but they’ll send a toaster and you’re all like, “cool!  down two!!”  so you start thinking about whether you should invite that one dude you went to college with who does keg stands on his bare knuckles or that couple that you don’t really know very well but who invited you to their wedding a few years ago.  you invite college friend and couple.  you’re obsessed.

the invitations go out on monday.  i anticipate 367 changes in the meantime.



July 3, 2008

yeah, yeah.  it’s been a while.  do you think i didn’t realize?  i’ve actually been quite busy.  thank you very much.  if you thought planning an akawedding was hard, try running for public office.

yes.  you heard me right.  i’m running for public office.  it’s a tiny, unpaid office.  but it’s public and i actually have to convince people to vote for me.

so, yeah.  i’ve been busy.  and totally overwhelmed.  although i’m super excited about the prospect of winning i am an impossibly lazy fuck who sees all of the work ahead of me and thinks, “why did i agree to do this?”  the fact that i will be out of the country on my honeymoon for the three weeks before the election doesn’t bode well for my chances of actually being elected.   

my other problem is one of self-confidence.  the worry that i will “fail” in one way or another weighs heavily on my mind.  will the copy on my website and campaign literature convey my message enough?  can i answer potential voters’ questions clearly enough?  do my stump speeches come off as intelligent and natural enough?  am “i” enough?

of course i hope so.  and it will take every ounce of me to make it so.

wish me luck!


dirty laundry

June 10, 2008

it all started with the laundry.  but before i knew it i was leaving for work, my ring and a note on his desk, while he was still in the shower.  “if we can’t even figure out laundry, how are we supposed to figure out this” with an arrow pointing to my ring. 

we’d also fought the evening before.  feeling frustrated, backed into the proverbial corner, i did the one thing i do best.  i acted like a complete and total child.

i hope he can forgive me.


the whatnots

June 5, 2008

i’m sitting outside.  it’s hot.  and i’m being eaten alive by mosquitoes.  the steamy lap top isn’t helping.  note to self: google “DIY mosquito repellent” ASAP.

not much new on the akaWedding front.  well, maybe i spoke too soon: 

 – we ordered tulle, yes, tulle, for some lighting stuff we want to do in the venue.  exciting. 

 – i have tentative plans to go to michael’s this weekend to pick up some things for potential centerpieces.  for those that care – square glass vases, river rocks, square glass votive holders, etc.  i also want to check out paper bags for luminaria and/or DIY seed packet favors. 

 – a few of my girlfriends are throwing mr. D and i a wedding shower in august.  i’m really excited about it!  we’re asking guests to help us “stock-the-bar” for the akaWedding by bringing their favorite champagne or vodka (for a signature champagne cocktail.  recipe TBD).  my only fear is that this party will be as cool if not cooler than the actual akaWedding.  it’s at a local mid-to-upper-swanky bar, there will be music, food, etc.

 – we are currently having a huge debate (hyperbole) with the wedding planner about the DJ.  her contact came in way over budget, especially considering we’ll be supplying most if not all of the music via iPod/.MP3 (we’re/i’m picky).  and we could just do the iPod playlist thing with a friend setting up a real PA system for amplification, but we’re worried about transitions and flow.  i mean, what happens if eating takes longer than expected and biggie, ludicris or outkast start bumpin’ as my grammie is finishing her rosemary chicken skewer?  that shit is reserved for when she’s had her limit of champagne cocktail and can’t decipher the lyrics and booty dancing!  from the  begining, our vision was to have more of an emcee who can blend the generally appointed playlists at the generally appointed times.  basically, we need someone to clue our guests into what’s going on – “let’s eat!” or “and now, ladies and fuckwads, we will cut the cake” kinda thing – while playing the appropriate music.  we’re (or mr. D, i should say) now looking to people we know locally who have DJ set-ups and who are rightfully DJs, though more club DJs, to see if anyone will help by showing up, setting up and minding the flow, possibly doing some emcee stuff.  mr. D can’t understand why the wedding planner can’t take on the emceeing responsibility herself.  i understand why this would be a burden for her considering all of the other shit she’s going to be doing that day but i’m not sure whether i want to ask a friend/akaWedding attendee to do it.  maybe, if we can find someone to deal with the musical flow,  mr. D and i will have to take on the emceeing ourselves.  thoughts or advice are always appreciated.

 – the invites are ordered and although they are very simple, i cannot WAIT to see them.  i think this will put everything into perspective; it will be officially official!

 – and because i know he’ll read this eventually, i will say only that i ordered a wedding gift for mr. D today.  it rocks!

 – and as the weeks pass i am more and more stumped by the whole “no ceremony” thing.  trying to come up with alternative ideas has been difficult and with 122 days left until the Big Day i’m getting a bit nervous.  i know the other stuff – the food, drinks, decorations, favors, DJ or not, etc. – will come together but the task of creating an entire akaCeremony from the ground up is hitting me as this HUGE challenge.  with no officiant to rely on it will be just the two of us…doing what exactly?  cuttin’ the fool, as my lovely friend d would say.  and if i’m totally overwhelmed by it now, imagine how i’ll be on the day!  “hot mess” comes to mind.  i know mr. D and i have no problem telling each other how we feel about love and commitment.  in those wee hours of the morning when a 9 minute snooze seems like hours or milliseconds and it’s just us.  and with no one guiding us, forcing us even, to answer the question “do you?” in front of a room full of people, will we be able to convey just exactly what we will “do”…love, honor, cherish, teach, guide, snuggle, breathe for, encourage, conspire with, and on and on.